What a Man *3 What a MIGHTY GOOD man!

There are very many definitions of ‘good’ out here.

A good man looks different to different people.

This definition also changes with time.

But there is something so timeless and sure about God’s definition of good. God’s kind of good does not change from person to person. In it are key components that cannot be modified because if they are, then it ceases to be of God. I like God’s definitions because they do not contradict themselves and definitely last (contrast ours).

First of all, this is not true! :D

A good man in God’s eyes looks different in many ways.

This man is so unbelievably simple. He does not complicate the basics. He is truthful and genuine-I came to learn that there is a difference. Genuine breeds truthfulness.

He is a firm leader who has a level head. Such ease is found in submitting to him because there is certainty that he knows where he is leading us- he gets his directions from God. He also submits to his earthly authorities. He is not the typical ‘alpha male’ and this puzzles many.

He is strong, yes, but is not proud. A paradox that many have learnt to get used to. His boldness is coupled with grace. He listens, guys. He listens!

There is such purity in his masculinity. He is not pressured into conforming to human patterns, to give himself away to just any woman simply because they are exclusively dating. He is a firm lion, with immovable boundaries surrounding his sexual purity. He is not willing to compromise on this because he knows the price that has been paid for him. It is not that he does not have sexual urges. It is not that he is not handsome (he is quite a catch, hunny!), but he knows that his body is the dwelling place of God Himself. He wants the first sexual encounter with his legal wife to be excitingly safe and resoundingly sanctified (y’all know how it got to be, right? Aye!). He does not tempt. He admires with moderation.

In his marital life, he protects like a king who protects his chest of jewels. You go through him first before you touch his family. He understands preparation and so he sets realistic plans for his future and his children. He does this carefully and wisely because he wants his children to not only be born but to not know limitations-at least not by his own doing.

Did I mention how practical this man is? He does not just pray, he acts. You will find him awake praying. You will find him awake reading the Word of God and meditating on His precepts. He knows his steps are ordered and so he does not assume office until God speaks so. You can watch him all day.

After he places God in His rightful place, he goes about his day, crushing meeting after meeting and scheduling tasks while streamlining others. What a sight to behold.

He knows his steps are ordered and so he does not assume office until God speaks so.

He is a friend, socially acceptable and loved. (Not by everyone, of course, but you get the drift). He is not perfect; certainly not. He sometimes shouts when he gets upset and that gets scary, but he has a heart of David. He is keen to pull out his errors at the root. What is so strangely attractive about him is that he is very careful with his words even when he is upset. He knows when he is about to reach his limit and backs away from fatal words and wounds. He values peace more than being right, and that keeps home so happy. He knows that his childhood may not have been perfect but he makes no excuses and makes not himself to be a victim. He is not afraid of therapy. To him, it does not de-masculate a man but makes him healthier. He is quick to apologize when he is wrong but he is also firm to recognize where error falls on the other party. He is not your doormat.

He handles his in-laws so graciously and so lovingly. He definitely understands his boundaries, but he is the son they’ve always wanted. He is so helpful, resourceful and all so loving to their daughter. He takes care of their jewel.

When it comes to debts, he tries not to get into any. But when he does, he gets good debt and he pays them faithfully. He budgets and spends according to his means. He is not keen to impress people and run down his credit score. He is honorable when it comes to people who have financially disparaged him because he does not take pleasure in acting prematurely.

He has his own issues, I repeat. He has gone through much both out of his own errors and as a result of other people's mistakes against him. Sometimes the socks are strewn all over the space, sometimes he gets late for work, sometimes he forgets important stuff (oh, this takes forgiveness!) and sometimes he butts heads with people like his work colleagues, family etc but he raises himself as fast as he falls and that is precious.

His home is an envy of many and many wonder how it works so seamlessly. What they do not know is that this man stands on the feet of giants of wise counsel. He is as humble as they come and knows God can take everything away in an instant, so he honors His maker. He intercedes for his family and God sees this and rewards him accordingly. He has a loving wife by his side that honors his godly masculinity and upholds him at every pillar. She is on her face covering him in prayer and supplication and she watches over him delicately but fiercely. We will talk about her some time later, but know that this man is well covered, he does not lack.

This man looks like an anomaly, but he is not. HE EXISTS. And he is worth the wait.

Are you a single lady in waiting? There are loads of prayer points up here, take some and head on into prayer and preparation!

And if you are a man looking at this and thinking, “That cannot be me!” Or “Impossible!” Do not despair. God cannot call out what He does not think we can become! (Proverbs 31 sucks for us ladies sometimes too, but we aim high!)😂

(Inspired by the book of Ephesians chapter 5.)