What I Will Tell My Daughters About Love

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I thought about my future children yesterday as I was thinking of what to post this week.

I briefly pondered on Valentine's Day (which is coming up in three days). I wondered how that day may be generationally significant. (Because I am a deep thinker, okay?)

I thought about my little flowers. My little power-puff girls. My daughters. I want to be a better mother to them than they'd ever imagine. I want them to be confident and secure in their identity even before a boy tells them that they are beautiful. I want them to be comfortable with saying hard things so that people do not squeeze them into corners for the rest of their lives.

When they ask me about Valentine’s and love, this is what I will tell them:

1. Love is beautiful no matter who tells you what. No matter what or who hurts you, love remains beautiful.

2. Please do not awaken love until its right time. Value a genuine love more than infatuation. It wears off too easy!

3. True love will NEVER manipulate, coerce, diminish, subtract from, destroy or nullify your voice. If you ever encounter this (God forbid), please know that it is not true. Leave/allow yourself to be left. Come home, we still love you here.

4. True love is described by God and maintained by God. He gives blessings that do not add any sorrows to them.

5. Don't be afraid of heartbreak. It teaches you who you really are in the face of inexplicable pain. Teachers are more honorable than empty words in books.

6. Enjoy giving from a full and serviced heart. Ask God to fill you up every morning with grace and most of all, love so that you are never stuck on 'empty'.

7. It is extremely hard to love correctly and receive a correct kind of love when you have a poor self-image.

8. Please do not let others' inability to see your value diminish you into losing your own self-worth.

9. No one should be given greater authority than God over your heart. Even your husbands. People make terrible idols.

10. Please do not be afraid of telling that boy that likes you 'no' if you do not feel the same way for them. People deal with rejection better than pretentious affection.

11. Watch how I love dad. Watch how dad loves me. We are not perfect, but we promise to try each time.

12. Ask God to teach you how to love. After all, He made love, love!

13. Let no one rush your heart. God makes all things perfect in their own time.

14. Remember to be kind in love even when you are angry with those you love.

15. Give your best. Try your best. Always.

16. Do not just love your romantic partners. Love everyone else (love should certainly never be directed to one person alone). Also, there are more things to love apart from romance.

17. Love covers a multitude of sins but it does not condone sin. This extends to those you do not particularly like. You can love them from way over there and that is okay.

18. If you really love someone, you will tell them the truth. Even if it costs you that particular relationship. Love does not lie.

19. Do not expect everyone to love like you. Some people have gone through atrocious, hate-inducing things. God extends His grace to you daily and His loving-kindness brings you to repentance. Extend the same grace. (But do not let people abuse it.)

20. If you have absolutely no clue how to love a difficult somebody, ask, “How would Jesus have loved them?”

To my little power- puff girls; mom loves you so much.

Atleast you get to say that your mom was cool back in the day😉

My life is changing slowly but surely at this time, and I am sure each thing I am going through will be useful to you so that you grow into stronger and lovelier women than those of my generation.

I love you and I am thinking of you,

Mum,

10 February, 2022. 2040hrs.